Oh Kate — big hugs. I’m so sorry that she’s not making good choices, that it’s hurting her family. I do know you would have been (and you are) a wonderful mother, a choice mother — and I know Heavenly Father knows it, too. It’s all this agency thing, isn’t it? People think they have the right to make choices no matter who it hurts. Thankfully Our Father is a perfect judge and won’t hold her children accountable for her failings. I hope you feel better today, even if you still don’t understand. I’m so, so sorry.
I wish you knew all the answers. So sad when people make really bad choices especially when it impacts children. It’s not the end though. You never know when another child will enter your life.
Oh Kate…I’m so sorry for this intensifying of your grief. How hard it is when it is through the exercise of the agency of others that we are thus hurt.
I can offer no answer to the questions you posed that you don’t already hold within yourself, but then, it isn’t for me to answer them anyway, since I’m not the one you asked. I am sure you have asked Him. I know what a woman of faith you are. And I hope the answers come soon and sweetly, even if it seems in this moment like sweetness is not something that will be afforded you.
I’m crying with you right now Kate. I am so sorry. I wish I had something inspirational to say to help make things better. My hope is that Heavenly Father can continue to help you through this and give you peace. Don’t give up Kate. I know it’s hard, but continue to pray for answers, – He is listening -and pray for the birth mother too, it sounds like she needs all the prayers she can get.
by Beth, on November 29 2009 @ 1:39 am
Oh Kate — big hugs. I’m so sorry that she’s not making good choices, that it’s hurting her family. I do know you would have been (and you are) a wonderful mother, a choice mother — and I know Heavenly Father knows it, too. It’s all this agency thing, isn’t it? People think they have the right to make choices no matter who it hurts. Thankfully Our Father is a perfect judge and won’t hold her children accountable for her failings. I hope you feel better today, even if you still don’t understand. I’m so, so sorry.
by Tonya, on November 29 2009 @ 4:01 am
Kate, I know you are hurting and I am so sorry. I wish I had all the answers as to why things happen the way they do.
I know I have a lot of my own questions when I get to ask them someday.
Big hugs for you.
by Andrea, on November 29 2009 @ 1:21 pm
I wish you knew all the answers. So sad when people make really bad choices especially when it impacts children. It’s not the end though. You never know when another child will enter your life.
by Kim, on November 29 2009 @ 7:49 pm
Oh Kate…I’m so sorry for this intensifying of your grief. How hard it is when it is through the exercise of the agency of others that we are thus hurt.
I can offer no answer to the questions you posed that you don’t already hold within yourself, but then, it isn’t for me to answer them anyway, since I’m not the one you asked. I am sure you have asked Him. I know what a woman of faith you are. And I hope the answers come soon and sweetly, even if it seems in this moment like sweetness is not something that will be afforded you.
Love’n'hugs,
Kim
by Rose, on November 30 2009 @ 10:03 am
I’m crying with you right now Kate. I am so sorry. I wish I had something inspirational to say to help make things better. My hope is that Heavenly Father can continue to help you through this and give you peace. Don’t give up Kate. I know it’s hard, but continue to pray for answers, – He is listening -and pray for the birth mother too, it sounds like she needs all the prayers she can get.